The following quote summarises what the paradoxical nature of change means:
"...change occurs when one becomes what he is, not when he tries to become what he is not. Change does not take place through a coercive attempt by the individual or by another person to change him, but it does take the time and effort to be what he is - to be fully invested in his current situations."
Be who you are and change will come.
Happy New Year 2014!